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Mexican Wedding, 17 May 1999

17 May 2009

It might be fun to get married in Mexico...

Mexican Wedding, 17 May 1999

Sunday was by far for me the most awakening experience, or at least day of the trip.  It started with breakfast in a market place south of Oaxaca.  The market place was very big and very dirty.  There were people – mostly women – at various kiosks and stands around the indoor – or at least enclosed – area, selling meat, bread, and fruits and vegetables, among a thousand other things.  They were calling out what they were selling, swatting flies from their merchandise trying to lure business.

My host family took me along on this trip, and I get the impression it’s something they do every Sunday.  They had a guest, Mariana, with them.

When we sat down to eat breakfast, it was in a miniature kitchen, complete with stove, oven, sink (I believe), table and chairs.  There was a hostess who served, and presumably cooked the food.  I couldn’t see much of what was going on because it was all behind me.
When we first sat down, we joined a group of people we didn’t know.  I got the feeling this is a rather common occurrence, not only in this market place, but in Oaxaca as well.  Eventually a table opened up and the six of us got to eat by ourselves, although I wouldn’t have minded sharing.

After that, the main course was served, at first I didn’t order anything because I didn’t know what I was doing.  Once I saw what the food looked like, I ordered what Joel had.  The family warned me that it is very spicy, but I ordered it anyway.  When it came to the table and I ate it, I didn’t have a problem with the spice, as I expected, and much to the surprise of the Mexicans sharing the table with me.  The meal, by the way, was cane asada served with black beans and tortillas.  The host father told me it was goat meat.  It tasted like beef, but a little tougher.

Once the meal was finished, we headed up the stairs to a church for Sunday Mass.  It was here I was lucky enough to witness a Mexican Wedding.  A few notable different things about weddings n Mexico and the United States:

1)  In the United States, the family is seated as the bride and groom enter the church.  In Mexico, the family – the whole family – escorts the soon - to - be newlyweds into the church.

2)  The Mexican ceremony (at least this one) was very short.

3)  In a Mexican wedding, the bride and groom wear a chain of cloth or lace (their choice) around their necks after they say their vows to symbolize their everlasting love.

4)  When the bride and the groom exit the building, the awaiting family throws rice (we used to, but now throw birdseed instead) and then just stands there chanting with the crowd “Beso!  Beso!  Beso!”, or “Kiss” in Spanish.  This replaces the line “You may now kiss the bride.” (I think).
Please bear in mind, these comparisons are limited to my experiences.  They strictly represent one Roman Catholic Mexican Wedding Ceremony and Roman Catholic Wedding Ceremonies in the United States.  This is by no means a complete overview of every Mexican and/or American Matrimony service.  Thank you.

Again, my bed calls me, but I still need to document today’s events and yesterdays trip to Santa Cruz, the town God forgot.  I hope I have time tomorrow.

No Worries!

17 May 1999
Oaxaca, Mexico


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